How long should we wait for others to live up to our expectations? Listen to a story A family of tortoises went on a picnic They packed food and set out to a place they had selected, behind the hills. When they reached the spot, they unpacked their picnic basket They found they had forgotten to bring salt Food without salt is tasteless. The youngest tortoise being faster than the others, he was asked to go back and get salt.The youngest objected What if in the meantime the snacks were eaten up? They assured him they would wait for him.
Six months passed, and there was no sign of the youngest tortoise So the rest of the family decided to open the basket and eat the snacks When they opened the snack basket, the little tortoise jumped out of the bushes and screamed, “I knew you would not wait till I came back For six months I have been hiding in the bushes to make sure you would not eat without me now my suspicion has been confirmed, and I am not going to get the salt.Some of us are like the suspicious tortoise: we waste time waiting for people to live up to our expectations.
Instead of doing the right thing ourselves, we wait for others to act in ways we expect them too. We have not learned to enjoy doing what our intuitive judgement tells us is the right thing to do stress related to egoism?Yes, very much Egoism implies that we think we are more important than others, and that what we believe, is the truth Ego means our point of view is more important than that of others, more important than even truth So we are trapped within our point of view Not only are we arrogant about our point of view, we believe in our infallibility.
Arrogance and stubbornness create stress. When self-interest or ego prevails in our mind, we begin to compete with everyone for everything, no matter what the cost. We do not see beyond our self gratification.Be playful and flexible. If you need to work long hours in the office, enjoy it, play with it. Convert the work place into a fun place with commitment. Then you don’t work for joy, work itself becomes joy. Drop the ‘I’ and ‘mine’ and live in the ‘we.’ The universe is one Without the ego, we experience a beautiful connectedness with everything else in the great chain of being: with the birds, stars, sky and trees.
You can envision them to be different parts of your body, or yourself to be part of one or more of them It is this connectedness that is known as ‘Nirvana’ Reality is unity and illusion is division. What lies at the root of impatience?We have to trust the universe with its own ways of opening and closing windows of opportunity and doors to happiness and prosperity. We have to learn to be patient. Impatience is a result of lack of trust. We trust our ego and not the miracle of life Patience is predicated on the faith that God knows better than we ever can hope to know what is good for us.
Impatience, on the other hand, asserts, “God should be clever enough to let me have things my own way because, after all, what I want is paramount”.